enter their world. they might fit easier into yours. but you will have more success in theirs.
SHHHHH...THE GNOMES WILL HEAR US
And guess where we need to go.
If you've been a parent for any length of time, you know that it is a losing battle to tell your kid "be quiet." First of all, it's just a dumb thing to say. Seriously, as an adult, as soon as someone tells you to be quiet, a million questions come to mind. You suddenly remember that thing you've been meaning to ask for the last two years but keep forgetting.
Now imagine a child's mind. In all honesty, you are lucky if you get 10 seconds out of them before the little voices grow to an impressive crescendo.
Here's a way to turn that 10 seconds into 30 seconds. Make it a game. Kids respond to games.
Tell them that they have to be really quiet or else the gnomes will run away. Yeah, my 4 year old knew we were pretending, but she didn't care. And my (almost) 2 year old followed suit. We went into Belle's room, pretended to catch the gnome, and game over. We could be loud again.
So my 4 year old has to have every toy that my 2 year old is playing with. Of course, she doesn't actually want the toy, but she wants to take it.
Well, Annabelle loves gum. In fact, it is a real motivator for her. But as we all know, too much gum is a bad thing. You know, kind of like when we hoard toys!?
So, each time she steals a toy from her sister, I am going to give her a piece of gum to add to the gum she already has. At first, she will enjoy it and think its great. Then, after the gum builds up, it will be hard to chew and not enjoyable at all.
Once she's had it, we will explain how stealing toys is a lot like chewing too much gum. At first, we like it because we are getting what we want. But sometimes, when we get too much of what we want, we don't enjoy it very much at all.
Naturally, I would only make things worse if I tell her not to say such things - taboos are great temptations for kids. So I think we need to help her be more sensitive to weight.
Again, I haven't tried this out, but I can't wait to do so.
I think we need to dress her up to be extra rotund. She can wear my sweat pants all bunched up (hey, there's a drawstring), a sweatshirt all scrunched up, and some clothes over top to keep it all together. After spending a few hours trying to doing things (play, go potty, eat), I think she will understand a little better.
This one could backfire in any number of creative ways.
Confession time. I am not the kind of parent I want to be. Maybe I am a good dad, maybe I am not. I am certainly not a lousy dad. But I want to be a great dad!
We have three amazing children. They are so completely amazing and they baffle me so completely.
As a child, I remember wondering why my parents didn't understand me.
Hopefully, I'll post some winning strategies for parenting on this page.
be humbled by your child's wisdom, insight and ability to recall things you should never have said.